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S981DVD Criticism, Dr. Henry Cloud Criticism often feels like a put-down; it conveys disapproval, and can be hurtful. Harsh criticism often causes marriages to fail, and can harm all of your relationships. We need to be able to offer constructive feedback that isn’t intended to hurt someone, and know how to do it in such a way that the other person can receive it and benefit from it. Do you criticize in a negative and hurtful way? Or do you give feedback that is constructive and kind to the other person? Our past experience influences how we give others our view of them, and can make feedback feel like a put-down even when it isn’t intended that way. It is important to be able to tell the difference between criticism and helpful feedback; we can learn from Galatians 6 and from the book of Proverbs. Dr. Cloud will offer helpful insight into the area of criticism and feedback. Download Discussion Questions: DOC (37KB) I PDF (57KB) Learn More

S980DVD Nagging!, Dr. Henry Cloud How many of us are guilty of nagging? A common definition of nagging is: to annoy or irritate a person with continuous urging. Nagging is a form of pestering, of reminding someone of something you have already discussed. Research has proven that nagging doesn’t really work. It doesn’t change behavior, and often gives us the opposite of what we hope to achieve. You may be surprised to learn that the Bible has something to say about nagging. What can you do instead of nagging to get the change you desire? Join Dr. Cloud, and he will help you find different ways to communicate - ways that will be more effective in getting you the results you want! Download Discussion Questions: DOC (37KB) I PDF (57KB) Learn More

S965DVD You and the Controlling Person, Dr. Henry Cloud Many of us have a controlling person in our lives. This person will often pressure you to do something that you really don't want to do, but you give in again and again. It is important that you understand your role in allowing this control to occur. People “try to control you” because they want you to do something. How do you handle this person? Do you get angry? Do you cave in and then feel resentment? It is your job is to convert the controlling person to a person who is frustrated in their attempts to get you to do something. However, you must be prepared for their reaction. This type of person is rarely happy to hear you say no. It's important for you to listen to what happens inside of you when this dynamic is occurring. Dr. Cloud will help you say No and develop a strategy to hold on to your freedom and your boundaries. Download Discussion Questions: DOC (32KB) | PDF (49KB) Learn More

S1011DVD Defensiveness Dr. Henry Cloud Good defenses are important to our well-being; for example, our immune system is a physical defense system designed to protect our health. We also set boundaries as a defense, in order to protect ourselves and people who are important to us. We can get “defensive” in a negative way, however, when we try to “defend” against reality, and attempt to avoid taking ownership of a problem. The Bible refers to someone who listens to helpful feedback as a wise person - and it also says that those who won’t listen are fools. The consequences of being a fool can be devastating. Join Dr. Cloud as he explains three common ways we display defensiveness, why we get this way, and how to eliminate it. Download Discussion Questions: DOC I PDF Learn More

S1010 DVD Family Leader Dr. Henry Cloud Whether you are a man or a woman, you want to feel competent in the role of leader in your home. However, it’s not uncommon to hear people say they feel like better leaders in the work arena than they do as leaders in their families. The good news is that the same leadership skills we use at work are needed at home. Dr. Cloud gives you a list of six items that will help you think about your role at home with renewed focus and clarity. The simplicity of the list may surprise you: you likely already possess the skills, and implementing them in your family is relatively easy to do. Download Discussion Questions: DOC I PDF Learn More

S1009DVD Why Our Relationships Need Goals Dr. John Townsend We have goals in many areas of life, so why not have goals for our significant relationships? Maybe you simply never considered it - or maybe you think that setting objectives for relationships will be too much work. There is much to be gained from taking time to come up with aspirations that are important to both parties. Goals can help you improve the quality of all of your important relationships: you can become more intentional about intimacy, define how to handle conflict, and become more creative about finding common interests. Join Dr. Townsend as he gives us some great ideas to consider in designing our relational goals. Download Discussion Questions: DOC I PDF Learn More

S1008DVD How to Have a Breakthrough Dr. John Townsend We would all like to experience a sudden improvement or an “ah ha” in one or more specific areas of life. It can be difficult to plod along day after day, and not see dramatic change. Although no growth process is immediate, there are things we can do to set the stage for a breakthrough. Join Dr. Townsend as he uses the verses in Mark 4:26 -28 to illustrate how growth and change work - and tells us what we can do to accelerate it. Learn how to actively influence the process! Download Discussion Questions: DOC I PDF Learn More

S1007DVD Developing Discipline for Life Dr. John Townsend What is discipline? Discipline is the self-control we need to reach objectives. We may not enjoy it, and it may be difficult - but it is necessary. How do you get the discipline you need to reach your goals? First of all, you need to examine a myth about discipline that could actually be keeping you from getting the discipline you need. Join Dr. Townsend as he helps us understand how discipline is developed, and how we can get the discipline needed to make life work the way we want. Download Discussion Questions: DOC I PDF Learn More

S1006DVD Finding Meaning in What You Do Dr. John Townsend How do we make sure that our time and energy is spent on living a life that has lasting meaning and significance? To ensure that you’re headed in a direction you’ll be pleased with when you look back on your life, ask yourself: “What matters most?” and “What do I value?” Thinking about your values will help you determine how to invest your time and energy, and will help you grow and expand. Join Dr. Townsend as he helps us think about our values, and get on the right track to living a more meaningful life. Download Discussion Questions: DOC I PDF Learn More